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Are You a Writer or a Coward?

Guest post by Trent

Chances are, whether you would like to admit it or not, you’re a coward right now.  That may be a hard truth for you to face, but if you’re reading the material in this blog and you still spend the majority of your time working for someone else instead of following your own dreams because of fear, you are being a coward.  There is hope though; even the bravest of heroes go through a cowardly phase and they always come out stronger.  You can be the next hero to overcome your fears!

False Evidence Appearing Real

We all suffer from the same problem: FEAR.  There is the common acronym False Evidence Appearing Real that everyone has heard and it’s a good way to look at fear.  But what if the Evidence isn’t False?  I will tell you, as an entrepreneur and self-employed writer, there are some real dangers and fears out here.  The road to independence and living the life you dream of isn’t always easy, fun, or paved with gold.  It is possible that you aren’t experienced enough in your field to be considered an “expert.”  There’s a good chance you don’t have many people willing to listen to your thoughts on any particular subject right now.  Likely, there is a very real fear that if you don’t pay your house payment on time, the bank will take that house away from you.  These aren’t false creations of your mind; they are very real.

Even so, they should not stop you from following your dreams.  Each and every one of your fears is surmountable, given the correct knowledge and drive.  To be honest, you can overcome anything with enough drive; though having the knowledge makes the journey easier by far.  The first step is discovering what you need to do and then begin to do it.  The second, and most important step, is closing your mind to the possibility of failure.  The first step is much easier than the second.

Finding the right information is surprisingly easy in modern times.  With the availability and access to resources via the internet, you live in an unprecedented age of knowledge and development.  Whether you want to learn about fly fishing or the effects of stress on the brains of animals, you can access this knowledge from the comfort of your own home.  As this is a blog for writers wanting to earn a living writing, I’m going to assume learning how to make money online is a big focus for you.

You’re in the right place!  Bamidele has been able to create more than one blog which earned over four figures in the first month!  At the same time, he was making extra money getting paid hundreds of dollars for a single article.  He’s putting this information online, most of it absolutely free for you.  You need knowledge on how to earn a living simply by doing what you love? You’ve got it!  Step one: check!

Don’t be too Comfortable

Now, if you have the knowledge, why haven’t you acted on it?  Why are you still working at a job you don’t enjoy while you daydream about creating your own future?  The truth is that you are too comfortable.  Although you may dream about following your passion to write, you aren’t willing to take a leap of faith yet.  You tell yourself “When I pay off all the credit cards” or “When the kids are out of college” or “when my husband gets his promotion” or some other future scenario you believe will alleviate your fears.  These are really just mental excuses you’ve created so you don’t have to admit to yourself the real truth: you’re afraid and you’re being controlled by that fear.

Here’s where step 2 really kicks in.  It’s much more difficult to take than step one, which is why only a few people ever take it.  Step two involves burning your bridges and escape routes.  Financial planners will tell you this is a terrible idea; I’ve known quite a few financial planners and not many have really had a great lifestyle.  Safe and boring is how I would describe their attitude.  I’ve known lots of successful entrepreneurs, and they all agree that this step was a huge turning point for them.

Burn Your Bridges

When you close off all other avenues for taking care of your basic needs except for your dream, you will figure out a way to make it work.  If you ever read the biographies of great achievers, you will notice a common theme of persistence.  If you dig a little deeper, you will notice a lack of options they allowed themselves.  They threw everything they had behind their dreams, to the point that if the dream failed, they would literally have nothing – and they came out on top.

Scary stuff, huh?  You might not like that idea at all.  You may feel it’s irresponsible to leave a secure job to pursue a dream.  If that’s the case, it’s okay.  Not everyone will throw caution to the wind and chase their hearts desires.  In fact, most people won’t.

But, those of you reading this and feeling the ring of truth in your hearts, you know you aren’t putting all you have into your dream. Are you a writer or a coward?

I have a challenge for this second, smaller group: quit everything you’re doing that doesn’t lead you closer to your dream within the next month.  If your goal is to be a professional writer, leave your unrelated job and throw everything you have into earning a living in the profession of your choice, not the one you have found.  If you need knowledge, Bamidele and I are here to help you in any way we can.  If you need encouragement, we can help with that too.

It’s time to decide: are you a coward or a writer?

Let me know in the comments section if you’re a writer or a coward.  I would love to hear your story and I will help you any way I can.

Trent Hand is a speaker, investor, and author of 10 Days to Your Magic Life.  He is currently living in Antalya, Turkey and will be exploring South America soon.  You can read more of his thoughts at or email him at

19 Comments on "Are You a Writer or a Coward?"

  1. Annie says:

    After reading this I believe I’m a coward. Thanks for the tips.

    • Trent Hand says:


      I’m hear to see your candidness. What’s something you can do today to start being a hero?


    • Kingsley Agu says:

      Hmmmmmm…. I believe I am too. I guess it’s time to start following my freelancer’s goal for 2013 seriously. Thanks for the tips.

      • Trent Hand says:

        You’re welcome Kingsley. If you stick with something long enough, success is guaranteed. Most people simply quit a little too early :).

  2. Eric says:

    I will be real honest with you Bamidele, I am probably a coward trying to move towards a writer. I am perfectly okay with being ope and honest about this.

    There are some huge steps of security, being comfortable, and that fear factore that I think is deep down inside of us all.

    This information sounds great, and another great resource I would suggest to anyone serious about quitting. I would suggest the book Quitter by Jon Acuff! It’s great stuff as well!

    Very thought inspiring post!

    • Trent Hand says:

      Hi Eric!

      My mother actually gave me the book Quitter when I moved to Turkey. I read it on the flight over (21 hours is a long time).

      Jon is a very smart guy and work diligently toward his goal. I would recommend him as well.

      Let me know if there’s any way I can help you overcome the insecurity issues.


  3. Alex says:

    I am worried that somehow I wont make it work. Not everyone can be a success story so throwing all your eggs in the basket is dangerous but extremely rewarding if it works.

    I applaud those who were able to make such bold moves.

    • Trent Hand says:


      That fear is very normal. It’s what keeps most people from ever living their dreams, all the “what ifs.”

      I spent years keeping a full time job and trying to follow my dreams on the side. It never works. When you dive into something and say “I’m not giving up on this, I don’t care how hard it is” you WILL be successful. If you don’t believe me, read Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Einstein also had a similar mentality. He stated he wasn’t smarter than anyone else, he just didn’t give up on a problem until it was solved.

      You CAN do what you want to do in life; be brave enough to believe in yourself.


  4. After reading this post, i feel like coward. but now will move to writer. working for someone else rather than following my dreams. It makes me feel like a hero. Thanks for this post.

    • Trent Hand says:

      You are a hero, my friend. Go create your legend :).


  5. Deji R Yusuf says:

    This is one revealing post you don’t just see everyday..thank you for this post…this post is an eye opener
    ..well..I i’m not a coward because i’m chasing my dream.
    Thank You sir! 🙂

    • Trent Hand says:


      That’s awesome! What is the dream you are chasing?


  6. Shan Malik says:

    It is certainly true that even the bravest of heroes go through a cowardly phase. The most important thing i believe is dedication. You can achieve anything with true dedication. If you have dedication + interest you will develop skills with time. And to be very honest, no matter what, the world always praises your hard work and skills.

    • Trent Hand says:

      You’re right Shan. It only looks easy from the outside. Once you’ve decided to pursue something with all your heart, the skills come. Couldn’t agree more, my friend.


  7. Maricel says:

    Given the very volatile economy nowadays (despite signs of global improvement, especially in emerging countries), choosing to pursue a dream versus keeping a family clothed and fed can be a tough one to tackle. And I salute those who have done so and succeeded. So yes, I probably am a coward keeping a 9-to-5 job and freelance writing on the side.

    Oh, well …

    • Trent Hand says:


      Why do you feel it’s an either/or scenario: family fed or dream?


      • Maricel says:


        Your question is making me think harder, and I thank you for that. I was thinking more of a “been there, done that” scenario when I made the comment above. But on second thought, that might have been a different situation, given that I didn’t possess the supplementary writing skills I now have back then.

        I guess I’m just comfortable in the thought that I have a fallback if/when my freelance writing doesn’t take off. It really isn’t going to be an issue if it’s just me. But I have dependents.

        Still, you’re right about burning bridges. I remember that story about a troop invading an island. They burned all their boats so that there was no going back. It was a win-or-die situation. And they won.

        I’m going to have a lot of thinking to do from this point onward, I guess.

  8. Adnan Shahid says:

    Thanks for helping me to discover my self. These tips will help me for rest of my life. Really a motivational article.

    Once again Thanks

  9. Gaurav says:

    Well, an eye opener. Your post just made me sit down and wonder what I am doing with my life. And thanks for the tips man. Real help.


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