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My Journey from A Poor, Fatherless Kid to A Successful Blogger

4/20/2016 UpdateRe-reading this article after five years of writing it, some parts of it sound ridiculous and downright unbelievable. However, everything I wrote below was exactly how I felt at the time the events happened, and everything below is still true. I find it difficult to believe that some of the events described happened, but they did. I edited the article to make it more practical to the average person, but I didn’t modify events that were certainly true – even if they sound ridiculous.

Bamidele Onibalusi

Life – they say – is not a bed of roses. Some are born with a silver spoon in their mouths. Others don’t have immediate access to the spoon, but can afford what they need. For others still, life is so very difficult, we wonder if it won’t overcome us.

A lot of things are easy to say. You can talk about your future and what you want to achieve in life – if you’re comfortable and can eat what and when you want.  But what can you say when you’re a fatherless boy under the care of a mother of six who’s struggling to keep her children surviving? What can you say (or do) about the future when you’re not even certain of the present?

From people around me, I often hear a saying that frustrates me. It goes like this: “If it wasn’t for the poor state of Nigeria, and our corrupt political leaders, it would’ve been easier for me to succeed.” How many of us truly believe this saying? How many of us believe our failure and stagnancy is a result of poor government and the economic state of our country? If you’re one of those people, I can assure you that you’re on a sure-fire road to failure.

You may never succeed until you realize that your life is in your hands. Your success can never be determined by your present situation. I have realized that it is easier to achieve success when you’re uncomfortable than when you’re comfortable. This is because comfort makes it difficult for you to progress. It makes you think of pleasure alone, and it makes you forget about work.

How it All Started

I lost my father at the tender age of seven. Because my father was wealthy, it wasn’t until his death that I started seeing the other side of life. All of my father’s friends and family members who constantly visited and socialized with us when he was alive departed my family when he was gone. Some relatives even went as far as to take his properties after his death.

Life then became difficult, and feeding her six children from the meager salary she earned became difficult for my mother. We began selling off the things we had left just so we could eat. Eventually, we became people everyone looked down on.

I’m happy I can tell you about this only because my story has turned around and changed for the better. That poor ‘me’, who barely had enough to eat, would never have thought of moving near a computer let alone telling a story of how he rose from poverty to success.

The Mind Started Its Work

The mind is very powerful. I’ve had some spiritual gifts from a very young age. Although I don’t know how these gifts came to be, or how they work, they have helped me tremendously through the years. For example, I have a strong intuition. I often can sense the future, and I also occasionally prophesy.

Highly popular author, Napoleon Hill wrote in his book, The Secret that scientists have discovered that every single thought of man affects the universe in a microscopic way. I believe telling you what I can do with my mind will give you some insight into how powerful your mind can be too.

My journey to success started when I first heard about the concept of making money online. Even though I barely knew what blogging was then, that message I heard changed my life forever. Someone came to our church to tell us about a seminar. The seminar was going to be about making money online from Forex marketing, and the person went on to say that it was possible to make thousands of dollars in minutes – just from Forex marketing.

Immediately after I heard this, the “giant mind” in me arose, and even though I never attended that Forex seminar or any other ‘Make Money Online’ seminars (I have never attended a seminar in my life – and I’ve repeatedly turned down invitations to lecture in one), I was able to achieve my dream of making money online.

Tenacity Played Its Role

Tenacity, also known as persistent determination, played a very important role, as far as my journey to blogging success is concerned. I heard that it was possible to make money just by sitting in front of a computer. I knew this was possible, even though I didn’t know how, and I was ready to give it all it takes to make sure I got results.

Since my first obstacle — which was believing that making money online is possible — had been overcome, I had to face another obstacle – getting my first computer. Since it was very difficult for my mother to even feed us, I knew I had to do something else. I had to do something unusual.

The next thing I did goes further to prove how powerful your mind and faith can be. I prophesied, based on an inspiration I received. I told my mother that she would be receiving a particular amount of money very soon (I didn’t know how it would’ve happened, but I just said what I was moved to). I told her that when she received that money, getting me a computer should be a priority. Lo and behold! She received the “exact” amount – and I got my first computer.

After getting my first computer, I started spending hours every day trying to learn how to make money online. After hours of research, I learnt about the concept of making money online by selling informational products. I spent 20 hours creating my first website, selling an information product created by another person. I was in front of my computer for a little over 20 hours without leaving my seat (I remember clearly – it was from 8 AM one day to 6 AM the next). I was really determined to build a successful online business, and nobody could stop me — not even my mother. Even though I couldn’t get that website to work and I didn’t make a sale after getting thousands of visitors to it, every single step I took from that first day had a huge impact on my success. I now have a rule of either start or don’t, because I never quit when I start, no matter what it takes.

I Learned to Change My Path

Being wise, sensitive and calculative is a very important part of life, yet many people miss it. Like many of you, I had fallen for many online scams (okay, not many, because I followed this principle). I had been cheated by online surveys, paid-to-click, paid-to-read, and other huge online sites many newbies are attracted to nowadays. However, one trait that ensured my online success was that of being receptive to change. After failing with my first website, I went the route of online surveys, PTR and PTC site. After failing at those, I focused my efforts on blogging.

It doesn’t matter what you know or what you heard from so-called experts. Always observe when something is not right. If you’ve worked on something for months, spending hundreds of hours on it without getting any significant result, and without the prospect of a better future, you should know it’s time to quit and focus on something new. The fact that blogging is working for me doesn’t mean you should be a blogger. Try a strategy and focus all your efforts on it. If it doesn’t work, you should be ready to change it, no matter what others say.

I Channeled All My Efforts on One Thing ONLY

I always know when something works and when it doesn’t because I always give it my all. I spent 20 hours online my first day building my first website, and I spent an average of 12 hours online every single day after that. After months of working hard with no results, I knew something wasn’t right, and I knew I had to change my approach. I moved to online surveys. The same thing happened, which led me to believe that something was wrong, not only with my approach but with what I was doing.

Then I started doing a lot of reading. I researched as much as I could and discovered blogging and how powerful it could be. What differentiated me from many newbies trying to make money online was that the moment I discovered strategies that weren’t working, I dropped them. I spent several hours online every day on the ones that worked (I still spend more than 10 hours per day online to date).

My point here is that succeeding online isn’t about being a jack-of-all-trades and master-of-none. It’s about being the best at whatever you do. There are far more people than you can compete with specializing on a particular strategy without getting results. How much harder will it be for you, trying to work on several strategies at the same time.

I Was Ready to Learn

You’ve heard about the dead. And you’ve heard about the living dead. But the truth is, it’s hard to recognize the latter when you see them. The day you stop learning is the day you start dying.

A lot of people know and respect me because they see my name everywhere. Some people even call me the “King of guest blogging” (even though I’m not, and I don’t like being called this – you can  read my guide on the subject).

The truth is, I didn’t invent guest blogging. I learnt about it by reading other people’s blogs. I was a forum spammer before I knew what guest blogging was. When I discovered that forum spamming was bad, and guest blogging resulted in traffic and results for many other people, I started working hard on getting my guest posts published on major blogs I came across.

My point is this: I didn’t learn about guest blogging by believing I already knew it all, but by reading other people’s blogs. You have already failed when you stop learning, and learning always means you’re ready to change. In most cases, this mean you have a plan – even though your plan is subject to change as you learn something new.
Guest blogging might be the reigning traffic generation strategy today but it won’t be tomorrow. And you will never learn about the latest tactic without reading.

I Focused on Genuinely Helping People

I sometimes find it difficult to believe that I wrote over 300 free guest posts for other blogs, and over 100 posts on my own blog within 8 months; all this without making any significant income. I didn’t quit, though!

A lot of people still argue about the concept of writing guest posts for other blogs, or helping their readers for free. They believe there’s no point in giving away something for free when you can as well be paid for it.

Zig Ziglar said, “You can get anything you want in life by helping others get what they want.” This is so true, and you probably won’t achieve success if you don’t start following this principle. I’ve been told several times to launch one of my free e-Books as a paid e-Book because people would pay for it. I’ve never done so because I have a superior motivation for blogging. This is to help people, and I’ve never once thought about the consequences of not making money from my blog, or about how much effort I invested in my blog for the first 8 months – without any results (or so it seemed).

People need to see that you’re the right person to help them, that you’re the only one who has what they need. The only way they can see this is by you being transparent with them. I never realized the importance of transparency until after it made a major impact on my blogging career. My most popular and successful posts on this blog are those that are more personal, revealing and transparent.

The post that brought me my major client (with whom I now make an average of $4,000 online monthly – or more, depending on how hard I work) was the post on how I wrote over 280 guest posts in 8 months. The most popular posts for this year, are my income and traffic reports. The reason for this is that auto mechanics can’t take instructions of how to do their jobs from a medical doctor. You have to prove to people that you know what you’re talking about before they will listen to you.

In a nutshell, helping people isn’t enough. You have to prove that you’re indeed the right person to do the job.

I am Different

Yes, I am special. However, the good news is that I wasn’t born that way. I developed it, which means we all have an equal opportunity for success. In fact, I bet you have even more opportunity to succeed than I do, because your parents aren’t struggling to feed you. The only person stopping you from success is YOU!

Your background doesn’t matter. Your country doesn’t matter (even though Nigeria makes it very difficult for citizens to succeed online). I strongly believe you will never succeed until you say and live by the saying, “My country will never be an excuse for my failure. My background will never be an excuse for my failure.”

You should also know that everything starts from the mind. The best way to nurture your great dreams is to keep yourself updated, and surround yourself with positive people.

Spread The Word!

I could as well keep all the information in this post to myself. After all, I’m already getting results and making money online, but I believe there is no point in keeping it secret when it can have a major impact on the lives of hundreds (or thousands) of other people. Why not spread the word about this post on your favorite social bookmarking and networking sites by using the buttons below.

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176 Comments on "My Journey from A Poor, Fatherless Kid to A Successful Blogger"

  1. Murugappan Meiyappan says:

    That’s really a touching post, Onibulasi. And inspiring too. And yes, if you aren’t ready to learn you’re worth nothing at least when blogging is considered.
    Worth the read, sharing it! 🙂

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Murugappan,

      You’re right. Learning is a very important aspect of blogging every one of us should be open to.

      I’m glad I could help 🙂

  2. Samuel says:

    This post gat me thinking!!! Yeah I feel your pain bro and I’m glad you made it through. I also wasn’t born with a silver spoon but all the same we just need to keep going!

    Don’t blame Nigerians, it’s the way most of them are being programmed! They don’t want to accept the fact that they are in charge of their lives, that’s why most of them are always scammed by fake pastors and prophet! Always in search of shortcut.

    Your family members are really fucking up, if at all they fucked up, must your dad’s friends do the same? That’s why people ain’t worth to be trusted! Well, I guess that’s how most family members do behave because same here in my own family.

    I’m glad you’re making it big, and I’m sure your momma will be proud of you 🙂 Gat your back bro! Keep it up hommie. You’re not alone! Rock on 🙂

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Bro,

      Your comment is really funny and so true. And you’re right, that is life. But what matters most isn’t what happens to us but what we learn from it…I’ve learned a lot of lessons from my life, my relatives and my fathers friends and I hope I can use them at some point.

      Thanks so much and keep on rocking!

  3. Bojan says:

    Congratulations Oni! That’s the way to go, you are a shining example of how it only takes determination to succeed! It doesn’t even require you to have the preconditions, since you had none!

    Whenever someone says they can’t make it, I will refer them to your blog!

    No excuses, your mind can bend the will of any person out there.

    You will be inspiration to many, not only for blogging, but for other life achievements as well!

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Bojan,

      Thanks so much for your nice words, I really appreciate it and it is words like these that keeps me moving.

      You’re so right about having a great mindset because with the right mindset there is nothing you can’t do (that is why God has to confuse the people trying to build the tower of Babel, because they had the same mindset and are ready to finish what they started).

  4. Mitz says:

    You deserve some rewards now, not because you were poor and in bad circumstances, but because you have worked hard!

    You mother will be very proud of you! You are special and could teach us oldies some great lessons.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Mitz,

      That’s right. Having the right mindset is very important but you also have to work hard towards achieving it. I’m really glad I could help.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  5. This is a touching post Dele, but I see it all started with having a good mindset and i’m glad you made it to this point. Now, don’t relent do more of what you know how to do best.
    Goodluck

    • Onibalusi says:

      Exactly Sam,

      Your mindset is the most important component when it comes to succeeding in life – you will surely succeed once you could utilize it effectively.

  6. elle says:

    nice and very inspirational post! you’ve just shown and proved that quitters won’t win, that anything is possible under the strength of determination. congratulations for maintaining and having this cool blog, keep it up! 🙂

    • Onibalusi says:

      Exactly! Quitters don’t win and winners don’t quit. As long as you set your heart at anything you will surely achieve it.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  7. Irfan says:

    That picture and the title attracted me most to read the article fully. Actually, since, in last one month I’ve found that i’m more towards these inspiring stories then any tech article. Really a touching post!

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Irfan,

      That is really great and I’m glad I could inspire you, I also hope I can help you take action and get the results you want.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  8. Very inspiring my man. This is a post worth spread. Let’s share it guys within our network. Google and web in general is about sharing the love, the knowledge and the experiences we go through 🙂

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Codrut,

      I’m so glad you loved the post and I so much respect your opinion of it 🙂

      Thanks so much for the awesome support and have a great day!

  9. Lye Kuek Hin says:

    Hi Oni,

    Not only you become successful and you really did it with style. I am happy for you for what you you have achieved and the credit must go to your mother who is tough to bring up six kids. At last you are sharing her burden and she must be really proud.

    Keep the good job going. I will be wishing everything goes well with you.

    Thanks for sharing this touching story.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Lye,

      You’re right. I so much love my mother and I’m so happy for all her support for me and my siblings. I hope I never disappoint her in life 🙂

      Thanks so much and keep on rocking!

  10. i kind of disagree with you. i believe that ultimately, it’s the environment your in that determines your fate.

    • Onibalusi says:

      That’s another great ability God bless us humans with. We have the power to believe what we want and I wish you all the best with that 🙂

  11. Sujith says:

    Hi Onibulasi, really a touching post. You have again underlined the theory- No substitution for hard work.All the best.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Aha Sujith,

      Hardworking is really important. I got your FB email and I will be contributing a guest post soon 🙂

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  12. Pumama says:

    Your story gave me more motivation in my life and my blogging career. I have a same age with you, I come from Viet Nam, English is not my first language but I want and I am sure that I am going to become a successful blogger. I admire you and like you so much! Hope that we will have a good friendship in the future.

    • semmy @ Make Money Online says:

      Yes you can make it. Same like mine, English is not my first language.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Pumama,

      I’m so glad my story could help motivate and inspire you since that is why I wrote it 🙂

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  13. Andreas says:

    A great inspiration and role model for all the other talented bloggers who are also trying to make money in this field. However you demonstrate that inspiration alone is not the key to success, it also takes a lot of determination.

    • Onibalusi says:

      You’re on spot here. Determination is the real deal and without it you can hardly achieve anything.

      Thanks so much and keep on rocking!

  14. You rock Oni you rock brother ! really touching story and i really never imagined that !!! made me emotional…… Well, rock on brother work hard like this and you will be the king 😉

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Navjot,

      That’s so cool to hear and it’s your support that makes everything possible.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  15. semmy @ Make Money Online says:

    WOW Oni your story give me a motivation!!!! Really nice story!! I’m agree with you, you are special!! Just retweet your story and post on my fb.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Semmy,

      I’m glad you loved the post, thanks so much for the RT 🙂

  16. Gon says:

    Its hard to share this kind of stories with other so first let me congratulate you about being brave to tell your life. Even if you were poor, you had a rich soul, so thats why you have success today. Believe in God and continue working hard (helping people).

    • Onibalusi says:

      Aha Gon,

      You’re right. It took some steps to make the decision of sharing it, and now that I’ve shared it I’m happy I did so.

  17. Benny says:

    Great story. I agree that the power of the mind is the most powerful tool we have. However people just fail to utilize it.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Exactly Benny, there is very little you can achieve if you don’t have the right mindset.

  18. [email protected] Money Bank says:

    You’re right, Oni. Our mind is the most powerful weapon we have in our day-to-day living. We just need proper mind-setting, believing what we think we can do and reach, even the unbelievable. Thanks for sharing this inspiring story.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Eleazar,

      Exactly! The only limitation between us and our success is our mind, once we can conceive it, we can achieve it.

  19. Make Money Blogging says:

    You’ve definitely had a long journey. I’m glad to see that even after you’ve started making money through your blog that you still strive to help others as much as you can.

    PS… Its raining here today. Can you tell it to stop? 🙂

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Kyle,

      It’s one thing to have money, it’s another thing to keep your money and be happy. I believe helping others will help me achieve all.

      Aha, that’s really cool to hear 🙂

  20. silpada says:

    It is encouraging post and a person like you have to progress a lot and I hope you will do.

    • Onibalusi says:

      I’m really glad you loved the post, Silpada 🙂

  21. Very inspiring and motivating story Oni. Everybody have their own story to tell but yours are very inspiring. To be successful we need to be patient, smart and never give up. Kudos to you.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Roseli,

      I’m so glad you loved my post and I’m so glad you love my story.

      Being patient, smart, hardworking and determined is the real key to success.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  22. aleena says:

    Thanks for sharing nice blog post, i like it so much

    • Onibalusi says:

      I’m glad you love the post, Aleena 🙂

  23. Jimmy Wrex says:

    Hi,

    Great post, I really enjoyed hearing about your struggle and success.

    Just a quick note: Napoleon Hill didn’t write The Secret, that was Rhonda Byrne. Napoleon Hill wrote Think & Grow Rich.

    I would be interested to know which book you actually meant as they’re both very different in my view, despite both alluding to the law of attraction.

    Keep up the good work!

    Jimmy

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Jimmy,

      Thanks so much for the correction. I must be missing something: It’s been long I read “The Secret” but I’m sure it is in it. Thanks so much for letting me know though.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  24. steven papas says:

    Very inspiring and motivational. You are doing good to me right now

    • Onibalusi says:

      Aha Steven,

      It’s really great to hear that from you 🙂

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  25. Mahendra says:

    GREAT Oni its inspiring. I was also cheated by these survey and paid to click site they never paid even a single dime.

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Mahendra,

      It can be really frustrating but I believe everything is a learning experience.

  26. Ashok says:

    Hey buddy, another inspiration post !

    I have problem when i tried to download your guide on guestblogging – it showed error :

    “An error has occurred.

    An error(s) has occurred while trying to subscribe you to our contact list:

    -You are already subscribed to list 7 days to build a better website”

    yes i have subscribed for that book before, so can’t i download this one? let me know……..

    regards
    – Ashok

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Ashok,

      That’s really great to hear. I just sent you an email with a link to the ebook, pls check on this.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  27. It was really a touching + an inspiring story. It was really sad to hear about your farther and your family’s condition after that. But I am glad to tell that you’ve done a really great job!! You’ve created a name for yourself, a reputation and money too..

    Well done bro. Keep going! 🙂 My wishes will always be there with you. God bless!

    Thanks,
    Saksham

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Saksham,

      Yes, you’re right. My father has done his own and now is the time for me to do mine. Would I rather sit down and be lamenting his death or will I focus on achieving something good out of my life?

      Thanks so much for the awesome comment and have a great day!

      • I am realy happy to see your +ve attitude! You’re successful and you have a lot to attain in the coming years! (I am sure) 🙂

        Have a nice day too!

  28. Mitesh says:

    This is an awesome post Onibulasi. Actually I have thought of starting a blog on meditation, spirituality and personal development. I would be be happy if my future blog made $100 dollars or less a month. And is it wise to get migrate to wordpress and get your own domain-name? Or should I blog under my name?

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Mitesh,

      I’m glad I could help 🙂

  29. Sebastian Prestele says:

    Great story, a real inspiration not only for bloggers, but for everyone trying to succeed in life.
    Keep up the good work and you truly have a great future ahead. If you can dream it you can do it!
    Looking forward to more inspiring posts.
    Sebastian

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Sebsatian,

      You’re right. If you can dream it you can do it!

      Thanks so much for the awesome comment!

  30. Alex Humphrey says:

    Yours is a very inspiring story. And for us Americans it is a reminder that the only thing stopping us, is our own mindset.

    Thanks for being so open and honest about your transition. It helps so many people!

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Alex,

      You’re so right. Our mindset is the only thing stopping us, aside that, the sky is the limit.

  31. DiNaRa says:

    You rock it, Onibulasi! You proved once again that wealth and money means nothing – you can achieve everything even without a penny in the pocket. We are driven by our desires. And those who didn’t achieve anything, simply didn;t want to achieve anything!
    I’m impressed!

    • Onibalusi says:

      Exactly! I really love your comment and it is so true that we’re driven by our desires. A lot of us do a lot of things that look impossible because it’s been programmed into us and we can also leverage the power of our mind by making sure we only focus on doing positive things that can contribute to our success.

      I’m glad you loved the post and I hope to never disappoint.

  32. There are only 2 type of batsmen in the world, One is Sachin tendulkar and other includes rest all. Same applies to you.. There are only 2 type of Bloggers in the world, One is Oni and other includes all !
    This is really inspiring, even Darren can’t write these type of inspirational posts ! 🙂

    • Onibalusi says:

      Hi Vibin,

      To be honest I’m really flattered…

  33. Dave says:

    You are an inspiration to us all. It’s good to see someone taking action.

    • Onibalusi says:

      I’m glad I could help, Dave.

      Thanks so much and have a great day!

  34. KennyVoon @Imoney2day says:

    You prove that success only goes to people who dont quit. Bravo.

    May success be with you in 2011